Saying yes to your children.

Although I have thousands, if not millions, of thoughts spiraling constantly in my head, I am often most inspired by the various blogs I read daily.   (They come in through my email.)  I will post a quote from one that really resonated with me.  {Something I will be doing more of, as I’ll explain in a later post.}

“Once I decided that my children were God’s best will for my life, I saw all of my life through this grid. So when I went through my day, in general, if an interruption came into my life, since my “grid” said, “My children are my decided and valued priority,” then I could say yes to my children and put the other non-essential things aside because it did not fit with my priorities. The other tasks and goals in my life are secondary to the plans I have made to keep the Lord, my children and my husband first.”

-Sally Clarkson, Cultivating Kindred Spirits and Choosing Priorities

{Originally posted by Sarah Mae.}

This quote struck me, as many do by the lovely Sally Clarkson, because there is often a guilt I feel when I put my mommy foot down and say no to things I’m asked to do or am unwilling to bend on a matter I know does not fit our family right now.  It is only recent months, as I’ve read more and more Godly commentary and, of course, scripture, that I understand my husband and then my son are my ministry; they are my first priorities.  I need to filter the things I say “yes” to carefully to ensure I am giving those two men–one big; one little–my very best.  The reality is, and the point that has been pricking me to the core over and over since about September, is that they get my leftovers.  They get tired wife/mommy, don’t bother me wife/mommy, get it yourself wife/mommy.  And don’t get me wrong, there are days I will be sick or sad and just need them to tend to themselves.  But the negative responses don’t belong in my household if my tiredness and any feelings of being overwhelmed are caused by me trying to be a people pleaser.

No, my boys deserve better than that.  I will have my husband for whatever lifetime God gives us on this earth (not that this takes away from the importance of working on our marriage in the here and now), but my boy has a finite amount of time in my care, and that needs to be my motivation.  That is where my attention needs to be.  And it especially needs to be on my marriage because that little boy is watching.

He is watching and he is internalizing how he will one day treat his future mate.

So, much like the title of my blog, I need to live a life well done.

I need to prioritize my boys.

But more than anything, I need to do it and will do it to glorify the One who gave me this life to live well.

Join me in saying yes to your child (and spouse).  It is a commitment you will never regret.


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